need some help

[cereal-killer]

Originally Posted by hallehluya

hi this post might not seem interesting to the people here but since you guys should have more experience in handling girls i believe this is the right place to post my questions.

i am a boy who broke up with my ex-girlfriend (girl A) 3 years back when i was sec 3. we were together for about a year. the reason we broke up was because i liked another girl (girl B). i told A about my feelings for B as i did not want to two-time her. before we broke up, i have not confessed to B about my feelings. A appeared very nonchalant and did not seem to be too bothered by my confession and she said that actually she liked another guy while being together with me too. so she wished me luck.

after a few months (cant remember about 2 months), i got together with B. at this time, A started making trouble. she got her friends to harress me and threaten to beat me up. all her friends were not any good, i have advised her to steer clear of them when we were still together but she did not listen to me. her friend's boyfriend, which was a gangster at that time, got his lackies to come and threaten me. i did not know her reason for doing that because she said she seemed to accept the break up with peace. she also got detained a year in her sec sch bcos of her bad grades. she attributes all that to me (blames me for everything that happened to her)

i ignored her as much as i can and managed to stop all the harressing by talking to her tuition teacher (we were in the same tuition class). so she stopped the nonsense for a few years.

but recently she has started to badmouth me openly on her blog, calling me a jerk etc. she has also spread some nasty rumors which are totally untrue to her friends saying things like i wanted to go back to her after i broke up with B. and her friends are spreading this to other people in my polytechnic. so i have quite a bad reputation now because of her.

i feel so wronged. all my friends ask me not to bother about it too much but it just cant be gotten off my mind. is there anyone else with similar problems? anyone who can help solve my problems? i know it's a long post i am just too sick of this to let it go.

First off... we're all listening to YOUR side of the story, which in actual fact we should be listening to BOTH parties.

I'll just give you my opinion based on YOUR story ....

Apprantly that girl didn't let go of you after you dumped her. She didn't take it very well even though she said she "found some one else" while she was still with you. Seems to indicate that she was trying to be sarcastic to you, and to tell you "You did it, I did it too" ... but it backed fired and she dug a whole for her self by mixing with the wrong company.

I don't know why you're falling into her trap. Becos' she 'badmouth' you on her blog and you can't take it ? how much can she bad mouth you ? after awhile it will die off if you let it be.... after awhile HER "friends" will find out about her TRUE character.

You're not even married and you've tasted the wrath of a woman

[no_faith]

Originally Posted by Midnightiger

...I cannot find any sex elements for discussion....

not really dun have, sure got sex life story wif his gal A, B, who knows the tution teacher too.(if itx female) to share.

so bro hallehluya, u juz join the poly, 1st yr ah? sure got fresh poly gals, got sum to intro?
u intro sum, i will spread good words for u into them and make ur reputation gd, swee bo?

[oasis3009]

Bros i think its easy to just tell kids like him to concentrate on studies first,get a gd education,and earn loads of $ etc...But i think kids nowadays are more streetsmart and exposed to many things with the help of the internet.

They are getting into relationships earlier and having sex earlier than us(im born in the 70's)...So my advice is forget about the gal and don't be bothered what she say to bad mouth you.

All she want is to haress you,make you feel uneasy,make you angry...If you react to things she say in her blog,you have fallen into her trap...Just move on and act as though nothing as happen,appear happy in school.

If people ask you about that incident,just say your concience is clear.Don't bother to explain yourself.The more you explain,the more complicated it gets.Sooner or later,she will get bored and won't be bothered to do that anymore.

Hope that advise help,its just my humble opinion...cheers bro

Originally Posted by cereal-killer

First off... we're all listening to YOUR side of the story, which in actual fact we should be listening to BOTH parties.

I'll just give you my opinion based on YOUR story ....

Apprantly that girl didn't let go of you after you dumped her. She didn't take it very well even though she said she "found some one else" while she was still with you. Seems to indicate that she was trying to be sarcastic to you, and to tell you "You did it, I did it too" ... but it backed fired and she dug a whole for her self by mixing with the wrong company.

I don't know why you're falling into her trap. Becos' she 'badmouth' you on her blog and you can't take it ? how much can she bad mouth you ? after awhile it will die off if you let it be.... after awhile HER "friends" will find out about her TRUE character.

You're not even married and you've tasted the wrath of a woman

Agree with you bro, TS should just ignore lah. Student and not married care so much for what .... ger only lose out by broadcasting out nia

[songsong1213]

I thought samsters only know how to advice people to Fxxx around and give FR. sicarli most of the advice to this newbies was to study hard..

Three cheers to all samsters!!! now I know there is a lot of good people here to give good advice to youngster!!! Will advice my kids to post their problem here in future if they got problems!!!

[cereal-killer]

of cos must study first .... else how to afford internet access, go GL for fk sessions, and come back and give field reports ????

[hallehluya]

thanks to everyone who replied. by the way i'm not catholic i just needed a nick thats esy to remember.

actually i already finished my o levels, this incident happened 2 days ago, but we have broken up 3 years ago. i didnt get 8As but i got 4As back then, my studies are pretty okay even up till now. it's just that i have the tendency to go into relationships with girls easily.

i am definitely trying to ignore this and am concentrating on my studies as much as i can (i love gaming too). i used to think the same way as bro chickenzip too, that "this kind of kid's affairs will die off with passing times". but dont you think that 3 years is a bit too long? she already has a boyfriend, so by right, she should have forgotten whatever unhappy things that happened in the past.

it's not the holidays now, i'm preparing for my semester examinations right now. by the way, i am still a virgin.

to midnightiger: the reason why i dowan to go to aunt agony type forums is because the only one i know of is in sgforums. and the people there are pretty nice to the extent of making fun of you and your problems.

i've had several girlfriends before her but she is the worst so far amongst me and my friends' encounters. i think i must be extremely unlucky.

thanks for the advice everyone. i think i'm starting to get what you guys meant about ignoring her

[rubbish truck]

I guess u r too young to be in this forum. Period.

[rubbish truck]

Originally Posted by hallehluya

i've had several girlfriends before her but she is the worst so far amongst me and my friends' encounters. i think i must be extremely unlucky.

thanks for the advice everyone. i think i'm starting to get what you guys meant about ignoring her

Dude, missed out on this post of yours. Judging by this statement, and of course your age. Dont think u r such a saint yourself. Guess you are still partly responsible for A's behaviour. So bear the consequences.

But like what the rest said, just ignore her.

[et911]

Seriously, it is part of growing up. Just leave it as it is.

I always believe in this phrase "It takes a man to stand up to a fight, but it takes more than a man to walk away from it".

Like other brothers have said (wisely!), study hard, get your good grades, go to Uni, graduate with top honours and you will have a whole life of f'king around after that.

A wise man (seriously wise man) once told me "I started chionging when I am 40, you havent even started yet!".

[hallehluya]

yeah it was partly my mistake too. we were both young back then, like sec 3. but i've had only had 3 girlfriends

[STK01]

Originally Posted by et911

A wise man (seriously wise man) once told me "I started chionging when I am 40, you havent even started yet!".

Hmm... these really wise words..

[vmtech]

Originally Posted by floda

This is very common for teenage puppy love .... talking bad about the person who dumped you... whatever it is, ignore all this .... y dun u just concentrate on studies ...

well we get this alot too in the GL section dont we? by tirak-destroyed samsters

[Messi Lim]

Bro there,

Time will heals the pain.

Everybody has their setbacks whether is it in education, love, family or financial etc. Of all, you have to move on and adapt to new environement and setting around you. Have you read:- "who moved my Cheese" do read it and understand the concept of moving on...

Do well in your study and earn more $$ in future. What past has past and not beyond in our control. Breakthrough the barrier that stay in your mind.(Free your mind)

Cheers
Messi

[Manny666]

My advice is ignore her. No point entertaining her stories. if u ignore her, people also wun bother bout wat she say. People only take notice when word war come to play, as in u talk back bout wat she say and talk bad things bout her. So be patient and ignore her. she's the one that still can't get over.