Relationship with an Ex Freelance

[Setzer]

Originally Posted by fwchong

I didnt read all the comments and just pick up the cue at the last paragraph and was shocked that this bro already known his fate but yet still play with it...

sigh...another bro going to lose all his money and the pain he is causing to himself and his family...

Up pts back to u...

you cant wake a man who's pretending to be asleep. his life, his money, his choices.

[CurtisWef]

I really thing kidney failure has made us stronger as people and as a couple. WE will be married 25 years this coming April. We knew hubby had kidney problems before we married but we never dreamed they would fail. 22 years ago he saw a nephrologist who told him he would need dialysis or a transplant in 2 -10 years. He lasted 10 years almost to the date that he was told. He has been on dialysis 12 years now and like petey it is just a normal part of the conversation. Sure we wish that we didn't have to deal with this disease but we have to live the hand that was dealt us and make the best of it. There are times when our tempers run short and we get on each others nerves but that is part of any relationship Just talk about things and keep things in the open or they will cause more problems.

[sonyericsson902]

his money, his

[fwchong]

hi, I am curious, why did you post this here ?

Originally Posted by CurtisWef

I really thing kidney failure has made us stronger as people and as a couple. WE will be married 25 years this coming April. We knew hubby had kidney problems before we married but we never dreamed they would fail. 22 years ago he saw a nephrologist who told him he would need dialysis or a transplant in 2 -10 years. He lasted 10 years almost to the date that he was told. He has been on dialysis 12 years now and like petey it is just a normal part of the conversation. Sure we wish that we didn't have to deal with this disease but we have to live the hand that was dealt us and make the best of it. There are times when our tempers run short and we get on each others nerves but that is part of any relationship Just talk about things and keep things in the open or they will cause more problems.

[elfoboy]

Please continue

[Huer]

So....the nick has changed, even tho you paid for a month's premium to be able to post immediately for the other nick, when you already have this nick ?

And the wife now knows and willing to forgive and even have sex with you....

And you are liquidating investment assets for Gin.

Hmmmm......either you are digging a hole for yourself, or lobang besar.

IF ITS REAL, I would get a few more bangs in before a temp separation.
Might as well get the moneys worth.

[fwchong]

The ending follows a familiar pattern I’ve seen before — one I’ve gone through myself, and watched many others go through as well. Some people cut their losses early, but in his case, I think he’s cycling through the emotional stages: denial, anger, bargaining — trying desperately to make it work — then sadness. At some point, he start changing social media... maybe that's the phase he is in now. Eventually, acceptance comes. I think that’s what I can read from the last post — an attempt that thing will die off. The phone calls between gin and him will fade out with time. The only question now is: how long will this drag on, and how much will it cost him — emotionally, mentally, maybe even more?

[Speras]

There will be growing fatigue as one tries to juggle all concerns, 3rd party, wife, both sides of families, time and most importantly, finances among many many things that need to be handled carefully.

This fatigue will eventually force a decision, which can sometimes be a temp cooldown while a recovery is needed.

I've 2 timed and 3 timed relationships before, no money commitments and all in SG, and that was already tense af, even the sex could end up confusing due to fatigue.

Good luck bro.

Best advice at the moment, is keep financial commitments to a minimum.
If you have not sent a years money yet, just change it to monthly.

[formidable]

Originally Posted by Annoymous

1) I can tell you are living comfortably and has this need and ability to provide security for others.

2) It's a bonus that "this other" also provides free F and some interest in you.

3) Do cont if you cont to feel comfortable financially. But i advise you not to commit too emotionally.

4) You should know that eventually she will find a BF, get married and move on. For all you know, she already has a bf now.

5) WARNING too. When she said one, do you 100% trust her? Even if it's one, the risk of sex diseases is already SUPER high. If you feel anything at all for your wife, or even children i advise you to stop doing this.

Point number 4 come sooner or later , my friend just got ditch by his Thai mistress after few years together, knew each other via CMB app. She is just office admin lady. Not FL though. My friend heartbreak may take time to heal

[BillyBonke]

Hi all,
Many things happen during past few weeks.

Gin and me have broken up. Not because we dun love each other but due to extreme measures from my family that force me to leave her. The pain i have to endure knowing she loves and miss me but we have to stop communicating and break up is tremendous. There is not a moment that i dun think about her during the weekend.

I guess the happy moment with her in thailand will be moment that i will treasure for the rest of my life.

Meet up with a close friend recently. Talk a lot. I feel much better. He advise me to focus on my career for now. Get extra source of income. Money is more important for man.

[BillyBonke]

Originally Posted by Speras

There will be growing fatigue as one tries to juggle all concerns, 3rd party, wife, both sides of families, time and most importantly, finances among many many things that need to be handled carefully.

This fatigue will eventually force a decision, which can sometimes be a temp cooldown while a recovery is needed.

I've 2 timed and 3 timed relationships before, no money commitments and all in SG, and that was already tense af, even the sex could end up confusing due to fatigue.

Good luck bro.

Best advice at the moment, is keep financial commitments to a minimum.
If you have not sent a years money yet, just change it to monthly.

Well you understand the stress.

Well for the money i am ok. I can manage. Reason why i help Gin is because i do not want her to get back to the freelance trade. If this small amount of money is able to change her life for the better. Then it is still something good.

I just want some peace now to recover from the heart break.