How do you guys deal with Perimenopause wives??? big headache, no sex no appreciation

[cbkia222]

Originally Posted by Spymaster2

Hi bro,
Read your candid sharing. My wife is currently going through perimenopause and it’s not fun for me and my 2 kids I tell you. But at least my wife knows she is going thru that and not in denial. But even before this, the sex has stopped right after my second kid was born and it has been many many years since the dry spell started. Thank god there are so many MLs around to keep me balanced and sane hahaha.
I can totally relate to your no love/appreciation situation. Had so many major arguments with her and things just cannot be patched up but going downhill. If not for my kids I would have divorced her already so that I can be happier living my own life.

Hi Bro,

Thank you for sharing as well. Appreciate the support

Like you, if not for my kid, would have divorced liao .

but seeing my kids happy is top priority now, at the expense of my own ..

[fallen11]

Originally Posted by Spymaster2

Hi bro,
Read your candid sharing. My wife is currently going through perimenopause and it’s not fun for me and my 2 kids I tell you. But at least my wife knows she is going thru that and not in denial.

does your wife go thru any treatment? seen a specialist about this? following any diet to try and manage it? taking any meds for this?

if so, still very bad despite these being done (or any)?

[Nekofear]

My wife's aunty is in that stage of life too. Her mental load from my view is her young adult son, being a stay at home wife, and looking after her post-op husband.

She got BF and friends/relatives that comes over every weekend to hangout, to relieve her mental stress. Now she hired maid to look after the house, so I think a lot of weight have been lifted.

Hope your wife wants to follow you go on vacation. For at home, hope your wife open minded, can try sleep naked with you first to calm her down.

[Spymaster2]

Originally Posted by fallen11

does your wife go thru any treatment? seen a specialist about this? following any diet to try and manage it? taking any meds for this?

if so, still very bad despite these being done (or any)?

She saw her gynae and was prescribed hormonal medication. But she didn’t go back for her follow-up visit because she said the medication is too expensive and cannot be sustained over the long term. She did her own research to see how she can manage it herself instead. It’s not easy because there’s a list of symptoms that are related to it but you’re never sure if it’s 100% related.

[Spymaster2]

Originally Posted by cbkia222

Hi Bro,

Thank you for sharing as well. Appreciate the support

Like you, if not for my kid, would have divorced liao .

but seeing my kids happy is top priority now, at the expense of my own ..

You’re welcome bro.
Do you drink? Perhaps we can chat more over some wine/whisky and share our misery and the good sbf stuff Lol

[LooksLikeJesus]

Originally Posted by cbkia222

Hi guys, i want to ask you all a serious question:

For those who are married and have spouses in their 40s, how do u deal with your wives who are going through perimenopause?

For my background, married 10 yrs/ 2 kids / stay landed . Maid to handle all the kids activities.

Wife and I both work ( i'm in regional sales, travel monthly and when i'm in sg, either WFH or just office meetings)

Money is not really an issue at home, but wife has started to act out last year, either being over bearing on my kids ( this sick that sick) and i'm always the problem.

Ohh yes, no more sex ( as usual, tired and shit, been already years) and i have given up initiating intimacy.

For me now, i just doing everything to give my kids the best childhood and life. My wife, i tried doing the " usual textbook stuff", ie date nights, 1 day a week just to her ( i get my maid to settle my kids), but usually end up fighting cos she wants to go home and thinks my maid cannot take care of the kids

She has been boarder line nit picking on my maid on everything ( laundry not done on time, food not up to standard, etc) and i've always been trying to mediate things ( my maid is awesome with my kids and i trust)

We also have support from my parents side since my kids were young ( my parents gladly help out whenever they can )

I thought i was going crazy and it was affecting my heath and workuntil i suddenly read up on perimenopause symptoms and everything matches:

The anxiety on everything, fatigue , moodyness ( also no sex)

Anyway, sex part, thats why i'm here on SBF more often than ever ( from GL lor 18 houses) to recently SNS's girls and also ivanka's/ elite69s euro girls!
Plus i'm spending a lot of other russian escorts.

Its definitely not healthy but somehow its helping my mental health and i'm able to just be a better person at home for my kids. If it helps me think better, work better to do more sales, earn more money for my kids, its worth spending on.

To see appreciation and kindness from these escorts ( yes i know this is boarderline gongtao, i've been gongtaoed previously by thai FLs, need to pay for car insurance back home etc).

i dont know if the rest of my life will be like this, the escorts whom i've spoken to ( i bao-ed a few for overseas trips), said sex is important and they said why stay married if all this is gone. Divorce is out of question now as i've seen what it does to young children.

I believe its just a perimenopause issue but wife denies everything and i'm always the problem. Told her off once that she didnt have to do any shit at home or worry about the kids ( i came from operations and i like to plan out everything smoothly to ensure process if smooth).

There is a limit to how much FLs can bring ( yes cumming inside/ on these Fls are awesome for the moment), but i just need some appreciation

One of my friend's recommended Sugar babes, went to see a few, fucking SG girls think their pussies golden, cheaper to go bring a russian escort to phuket and bang her brains out for 2 days than to support one of these local sugarbabes.

Any of you guys going through the same thing? How do u deal with this?

Thank you in advance

Never married here. But been in long term relationship before.

With all the money in the world and this woman is not happy? No wonder husbands in general have shorter lifespan their wives. Does she throws tantrum often like this before you two are married? This will only get worse as she ages. Aging just reveals who we truly are as we get comfortable under our own skin.

If she doesn't want any professional medical help/advice and storms out the clinic like a child? Looks like a classic case of probable personality disorders. Maybe, histrionic personality disorder or borderline personality disorder.

[exbiker]

How about you yourself go for counselling bro? Obviously the problem isn’t with you but you are bearing the brunt of it.

Counselling would help you cope with the situation at home?

Had a close fwb with whom we had mutual feelings for but she decided to ghost me and go back to her emotionally abusing and cheating husband. This happened all of a sudden so it left me feeling devastated. After going to counselling and hearing from another angle, it helped to manage better as there are things I didn’t notice from my pov. Because there are really gems out there who love and respects and treats their husband like royalty, and despite the shit and disrespect the husband throws at her, at the end of the day she still love him unconditionally.

Sorry I went off topic a little there but it’s sth that’s been bugging me. And as irrational it may sound to me at first, counselling helped me see some angles on why she did it but importantly, taking care of ourselves is what we can control. Can’t control those who decide to mistreat us.

[cbkia222]

Originally Posted by Spymaster2

You’re welcome bro.
Do you drink? Perhaps we can chat more over some wine/whisky and share our misery and the good sbf stuff Lol

hi Bro!

THank you for the invitation! Not an alcohol guy ( unless there's pussy afterwards, haha)

drop me a PM

We can just share our problems and know that we are among friends in this issue

haha..

[cbkia222]

Originally Posted by exbiker

How about you yourself go for counselling bro? Obviously the problem isn’t with you but you are bearing the brunt of it.

Counselling would help you cope with the situation at home?

Had a close fwb with whom we had mutual feelings for but she decided to ghost me and go back to her emotionally abusing and cheating husband. This happened all of a sudden so it left me feeling devastated. After going to counselling and hearing from another angle, it helped to manage better as there are things I didn’t notice from my pov. Because there are really gems out there who love and respects and treats their husband like royalty, and despite the shit and disrespect the husband throws at her, at the end of the day she still love him unconditionally.

Sorry I went off topic a little there but it’s sth that’s been bugging me. And as irrational it may sound to me at first, counselling helped me see some angles on why she did it but importantly, taking care of ourselves is what we can control. Can’t control those who decide to mistreat us.

Hi Bro! Thank you so much

for myself, i actually spoke to professionals ( i have friends in the marriage counselling line of work).

basically, before the solution was the same:
1) Try to be patient
2) try to be understanding
3) Try to help her cope with her feelings.

This was before i knew about the perimenopause issue.

Then after knowing about it, then they were the same:

1) Ask her to seek medical attention
2) Help her overcome this issue etc etc.

Fuck, the above are really text book examples and easiy said then done.

All solutions revolving around the men having to bend down, mentally and physically to cope with the women's emotions and all.

At this point in time, no possible for me cos then my health will go down ( my job is stressful as it is juggling travelling and demanding customers), my home affairs ( my domestics operations are also handled by me)
but having to deal with " feelings and emotions" and that those feelings and emotions are always varying according to situation. Apologies for the rankt.

Bro , also for your " gf went back to abusive spouse". This issue i researched early on in life ( i wasnt always a lady's man and often got the " you're too good to me")

Women find it a challenge to change a " bad boy" and find " excitment" in bad boys. This is a 10000% fact. If they are able to turn a bag boy into a good boy, it is a major mental achievement for them.

Now, what about good men ? Good men, are just " boring" to them. Good men, settle all their issues for them, pamper them and always try to find ways to make them happy.

But to these " modern" women, this is meaningless to them and they will always crave the " i can change a bad boy" challenge.

From my observations,

a) Traditional women ( basically those not spoilt by society, those whom are brought up to be good wifes/ mothers/ etc), those are pretty rare these days and these women will slave for their husbands

b) Modern women, must prove themselves in whatever they do ( the more educated they are, they more they must prove). As such, bad boys are the ultimate challenge to them.

So far, from my experience, one of the types of women who will cherish a good man are ex-esorts/ FL. They have sucked so much dick that they know the differencee between a man who will take care of them and a bad man.

BUt then FLs come with another bunch of occupational mental issues.

Wife and kids are out of town for vacation, took the opportunity to fly down one of my Russia chicks from phuket to spend time with me.

Rain is really messing things up..

Thank you guys are sharing here and letting me know i'm not alone in this mess.

[exbiker]

Can’t say I can offer much help bro. As it is you’re working full time plus handling the kids since she’s incapable of handling her personal health issues. Worse thing is she can’t even acknowledge it seems..? That’s the first step to turn things around I guess.

About my gf, so you’re saying that she find it a challenge to change her husband around.? Hmm interesting thought.. and in the process give up so much of herself so much so that she gave up a relationship where she is cherished..?

Hmmm.. worth a ponder. Btw she’s the traditional type with good upbringing in good family. Your word is correct, it does seems like she’s slaving for her husband..

Rain messing things up huh, find a hotel and fuck at the open window then 😊 that’s what gf and I used to do.. but sadly. Those are days long gone..

[huayingxiong]

Originally Posted by Spymaster2

Hi bro,
Read your candid sharing. My wife is currently going through perimenopause and it’s not fun for me and my 2 kids I tell you. But at least my wife knows she is going thru that and not in denial. But even before this, the sex has stopped right after my second kid was born and it has been many many years since the dry spell started. Thank god there are so many MLs around to keep me balanced and sane hahaha.
I can totally relate to your no love/appreciation situation. Had so many major arguments with her and things just cannot be patched up but going downhill. If not for my kids I would have divorced her already so that I can be happier living my own life.

👍

Yes. Ought to think for ownself and path ahead

[Khiampak]

Originally Posted by cbkia222

Hi Bro! Thank you so much

for myself, i actually spoke to professionals ( i have friends in the marriage counselling line of work).

basically, before the solution was the same:
1) Try to be patient
2) try to be understanding
3) Try to help her cope with her feelings.

This was before i knew about the perimenopause issue.

Then after knowing about it, then they were the same:

1) Ask her to seek medical attention
2) Help her overcome this issue etc etc.

Fuck, the above are really text book examples and easiy said then done.

All solutions revolving around the men having to bend down, mentally and physically to cope with the women's emotions and all.

At this point in time, no possible for me cos then my health will go down ( my job is stressful as it is juggling travelling and demanding customers), my home affairs ( my domestics operations are also handled by me)
but having to deal with " feelings and emotions" and that those feelings and emotions are always varying according to situation. Apologies for the rankt.

Bro , also for your " gf went back to abusive spouse". This issue i researched early on in life ( i wasnt always a lady's man and often got the " you're too good to me")

Women find it a challenge to change a " bad boy" and find " excitment" in bad boys. This is a 10000% fact. If they are able to turn a bag boy into a good boy, it is a major mental achievement for them.

Now, what about good men ? Good men, are just " boring" to them. Good men, settle all their issues for them, pamper them and always try to find ways to make them happy.

But to these " modern" women, this is meaningless to them and they will always crave the " i can change a bad boy" challenge.

From my observations,

a) Traditional women ( basically those not spoilt by society, those whom are brought up to be good wifes/ mothers/ etc), those are pretty rare these days and these women will slave for their husbands

b) Modern women, must prove themselves in whatever they do ( the more educated they are, they more they must prove). As such, bad boys are the ultimate challenge to them.

So far, from my experience, one of the types of women who will cherish a good man are ex-esorts/ FL. They have sucked so much dick that they know the differencee between a man who will take care of them and a bad man.

BUt then FLs come with another bunch of occupational mental issues.

Wife and kids are out of town for vacation, took the opportunity to fly down one of my Russia chicks from phuket to spend time with me.

Rain is really messing things up..

Thank you guys are sharing here and letting me know i'm not alone in this mess.

You were stupid enough to listen to a bunch of Jiak Liao Bees asking you to go for counselling. HAHAHA.

Just dump your wife into the bin and carry on with your life. HAHAHA.
Your wife doesn't care about you. She only wants to make things hard for you and enjoys your suffering. HAHAHA.

You are the frog and Your wife is the scorpion like the video below. HAHAHA.

[cbkia222]

Originally Posted by Khiampak

You were stupid enough to listen to a bunch of Jiak Liao Bees asking you to go for counselling. HAHAHA.

Just dump your wife into the bin and carry on with your life. HAHAHA.
Your wife doesn't care about you. She only wants to make things hard for you and enjoys your suffering. HAHAHA.

You are the frog and Your wife is the scorpion like the video below. HAHAHA.

Brutal truth.. ohh well

[cbkia222]

Originally Posted by huayingxiong

👍

Yes. Ought to think for ownself and path ahead

Definitely.. my path and my kids..

anyway, just dropped my russian chick off at the airport.. had a fun 3 days 3 nights with her. Reasonable cost and i also enjoyed myself.

Felt like i was sucking her life force from that young shaved pussy! haha..

Mind feels much better now, balls much emptier, wallet also emptier but definitely worth it!

[exbiker]

Originally Posted by cbkia222

Definitely.. my path and my kids..

anyway, just dropped my russian chick off at the airport.. had a fun 3 days 3 nights with her. Reasonable cost and i also enjoyed myself.

Felt like i was sucking her life force from that young shaved pussy! haha..

Mind feels much better now, balls much emptier, wallet also emptier but definitely worth it!

Swee. Enjoying yourself is the most important!