Help... I think my 'hotwife' is cheating on me...

cubeslover · #1 01-09-2005, 11:22 PM

Today, I received a call from my secondary friend. He is currently working as a captain in a prestegious hotel restaurant. I was surprised when i got his call. What he was about to tell me surprised me even more.

He told me he saw my wife having dinner at his restaurant with a guy last night. I frozed and thought oh shit, secret disclosed. I tried to convince him that it was just her business associate. He disagreed and told me their behavior tells him they were more than friends. He didn't want to disclose more but told me when they left, he saw them taking a lift at the lobby. He warn me to be more concern about her whereabouts.

Now the biggest concern is: My wife told me she was meeting her girlfriends for dinner last night. When i asked her again just now where she went after dinner, she told me they went for coffee at coffeebean after dinner. I did not pursue her further.

Now i suspect my wife is having an "affair" behind my back. The worst part is she knows i allow her to have "fun" with her colleagues(which she did), but why did she lie to me about he dinner? And what did they do at the hotel? Who's that guy?

My mind is in a whirl now...

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D_Silver · #2 01-09-2005, 11:56 PM

I don't understand.

You allow your wife to fool around but is upset that she lied about it?

cubeslover · #3 02-09-2005, 12:09 AM

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Originally Posted by D_Silver

I don't understand.

You allow your wife to fool around but is upset that she lied about it?

If you read my posts, at 1st i only wanted my wife to show off herself at her office, which is full of guys. Things happened and her colleague started to hit on her.

We had discussed about it before and agreed that she can go out with him, but bottomline is no penetration. We also agreed that she must update me everything she did and that means no lies.

But this time, it seems pretty obvious she was out with a guy, and she lied to me about it. Im ok if she told me she was with a guy, but why must she lie. Is she hiding something?

sincity2005 · #4 02-09-2005, 12:12 AM

i thik u could use my help. I can help contain the situation & stop your hotwife from "playing" with other unknown guys. Check my PM to u last week. i will be away on business trip, 2nd week Sept....maybe we can work something out for your hot wife.

D_Silver · #5 02-09-2005, 12:38 AM

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Originally Posted by cubeslover

If you read my posts, at 1st i only wanted my wife to show off herself at her office, which is full of guys. Things happened and her colleague started to hit on her.

I got that, but its like playing with fire - you play with fire then you better expect to get burnt. If you can't take the punishment, then don't play the game.

I'm sorry I want to help but theres nothing I can say to make it better.

IreneXXX · #6 02-09-2005, 12:46 AM

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Originally Posted by cubeslover

If you read my posts, at 1st i only wanted my wife to show off herself at her office...

You opened the door, she pushed it wide open... there's no shutting it now, much less locking it and throwing away the key......

Either accept the door is a lost cause and enjoy the view through the now french window, or seek another opening.

Edit to add:
Ok, that may be a bit harsh, but I find life to be much like a chess game where you should really consider as many moves as possible ahead of time and the various possibilities they result in. Good luck in whatever you decide to do!

sg_boytoy · #7 02-09-2005, 12:48 AM

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Originally Posted by cubeslover

... but why must she lie. Is she hiding something?

Bro cubeslover, you must be very dense, of course she's hiding something if you have a reliable source telling you that your wife was having dinner with a guy when she told you she was out with girlfriends.

Why is she lying? Hmmm, don't you

sg_boytoy · #8 02-09-2005, 12:55 AM

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Originally Posted by IreneXXX

Either accept the door is a lost cause and enjoy the view through the now french window, or seek another opening.

What's a french window on an opened door?

Me no understand?

seedofcucky · #9 02-09-2005, 01:12 AM

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Originally Posted by cubeslover

If you read my posts, at 1st i only wanted my wife to show off herself at her office, which is full of guys. Things happened and her colleague started to hit on her.

We had discussed about it before and agreed that she can go out with him, but bottomline is no penetration. We also agreed that she must update me everything she did and that means no lies.

But this time, it seems pretty obvious she was out with a guy, and she lied to me about it. Im ok if she told me she was with a guy, but why must she lie. Is she hiding something?

I think the best person u can ask is peterpan

Perhaps she may have cheated on u by not telling u her actual whereabouts as previously agreed...
maybe she needed a bit of her own privacy

or maybe she intended to tell u when the time is right...a lot of possibilities

maybe she doesn't want u to follow her every step or direct her in her "action"

Maybe she wanted the sex, which was not part of ur plan. She could be afraid to hurt ur feelings as u disapproved penetration. Possibilities.

I know u are thinking she may have betrayed ur trust and didn't stick to the agreement....I have felt that way a number of times. I advise u not to overreact and come to the wrong conclusion...ur wife may think u have a lack of trust...do give her the benefit of the doubt at this point in time. Try to talk to her...and emphasise that openness and trust is very important in hotwifing.

sometimes my gf doesn't tell me which guy she goes out with either...until a couple of weeks later. Hope the best turns out for u.

seedofcucky · #10 02-09-2005, 01:21 AM

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Originally Posted by IreneXXX

You opened the door, she pushed it wide open... there's no shutting it now, much less locking it and throwing away the key......

Either accept the door is a lost cause and enjoy the view through the now french window, or seek another opening.

it's not entirely accurate. Hotwifing is a mutual thing...the husband must understand his wife's sexual needs...the wife must understand her husband's leap of faith. One cannot proceed without the other...It will be wrong to adopt this concept of "unknowing hotwife" into hotwifing...she must know when to close the door if she loves the husband. Relationship between husband and wife must come first before her (permitted) affair with the 3rd party.

If the wife ignores the husband's feelings and takes what she wants, it's more transcending into the region of cuckolding where the she is more dominant.

seedofcucky · #11 02-09-2005, 01:26 AM

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Originally Posted by D_Silver

I don't understand.

You allow your wife to fool around but is upset that she lied about it?

U must understand...hotwifing is a "controlled" form of cheating. Husband and wife are both aware of her affair. Wife derives sexual pleasure, husband derives pleasure knowing his wife is flaunting her sexuality.

IreneXXX · #12 02-09-2005, 01:30 AM

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Originally Posted by seedofcucky

it's not entirely accurate. Hotwifing is a mutual thing ...... she must know when to close the door if she loves the husband. Relationship between husband and wife must come first before her (permitted) affair with the 3rd party.

If the wife ignores the husband's feelings and takes what she wants, it's more transcending into the region of cuckolding where the she is more dominant.

Very informative. Thank you! Noted for when I ever get a husband

seedofcucky · #13 02-09-2005, 01:32 AM

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Originally Posted by IreneXXX

Very informative. Thank you! Noted for when I ever get a husband

not a problem. Click on my signature if u have the time. Hope it helps.

#14 02-09-2005, 08:58 AM

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Originally Posted by IreneXXX

You opened the door, she pushed it wide open... there's no shutting it now, much less locking it and throwing away the key......

Either accept the door is a lost cause and enjoy the view through the now french window, or seek another opening.

!

I agree.. why ask for help when you started the whole game...?
You should have thought of all the consequences or likely scenario...

LengKia · #15 02-09-2005, 09:11 AM

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Originally Posted by CNNcmg

I agree.. why ask for help when you started the whole game...?
You should have thought of all the consequences or likely scenario...

well said...he reap what he sow

He lure tiger to his house. He must be out of his mind