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Just saw this.

FYI, 'err' is an affirmative. The equivalent to 'yeah', in speech.

Doesn't sound like she is able to 'hold a perfect conversation in English', however.

To be fair, I'll be the devil's advocate. (Altough, I'd agree with everyone else here and play it safe. i.e. err on the side of caution.)

She could very well be a graduate from somewhere. Did she say where? Ram U, by any chance? Pretty much all the unis in Thailand use Thai as the main language of instruction, to my knowledge, with only ABAC using English. Even so, most students are unable to come up with decent enough vocabulary or grammar to converse. Strangely enough, for most subjects, broken English seems to be widely accepted.

It could also be that while they are capable of a decent enough conversation, many are reluctant, or lazy to do so. My gf even majored in English, and yet she hardly speaks it; even when she does, she speaks in broken English. When asked why, she says she's 'lazy', and hence 'just talk easy'. She can actually read/write in perfectly structered sentences, when required.

Not being able to text due to insufficient credit is possible as well. (Happens to me a lot.) How does she text you when you confront her? Easy! I'm not sure about companies, but for DTAC, dial *101# to 'borrow' money (about 40b).

Might need to ask yourself if you're being a tad sticky, eh? Gf also used to get mad when I wouldn't text for days, when I fly out of the country. She's gotten used to it by now. Do you have to be texted everyday?

I don't know about you, but just packing up and moving to another country on a whim is a bit much for me. How long have you known each other? Are you both going out? Would you drop everything you've worked for, your friends, your family... on the suggestion of someone you've just met, who 'might be falling in love' with you?

If someone asked me the same question, the response might be a tad more than silence. :P If this is a representation of 'a hatful of skeletons in the closet', I must have enough to fill a graveyard.

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You gotta sometimes look at things from both points of view. Don't get defensive and all accusatory, then make mountains out of molehills. Especially when you're dealing with a different culture. I'm not saying you should be open minded, and take things up the ass. I'm saying you should take the time to understand the culture, if you're really interested.

About that part where she's asking about your ex gf; this isn't too surprising, really. Given that you met her in a g-club. What normal, nice guy would visit a place like that? It'd be perfectly normal to be suspicious. Also, g-clubs are usually frequented by locals hiding away from their wives/gfs. *cough* Not really the scene for tourists. It's also rather common that a Thai guy would break up with his gf (or have a tiff), meet a new girl, have his fun with her, then get back together with his previous gf.

Thai r'ships are highly volatile. Just the other day, gf's friend came over to stay because her bf threw her out of the house, wanted to break up, etc. She made plans to get a new place, moving her stuff out; alternated between crying and being hateful... bf called the next day, she was all smiles, and he came over to pick her up.

This is really common of a number of different couples we know... and of what we've done as well.

The vernacular 'working girl' isn't very commonly used around here, so she probably didn't understand what you were trying to convey. And... if she really were a WL, as you so succinctly put it, assuming the opposite; that she did in fact not like you, was it in her best interests to stay the night with you, while you weren't paying for her time? In the knowledge that all her friends now knew that she had gone with you?

Another misunderstanding, in my opinion. Think she meant to say that she doesn't know you long enough to know how to respond to your very forward statement.

To reiterate my previous paragraph. To paraphrase her words, "You just gotta chill, yo."

9 months... but how often, and for how long during these 9 months? Were you there when she needed you?

Do you know what this even signifies in their culture?

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Well guess I'm done with playing the other side for now. Since you're over her already, mind leaving her name/place of work? Sounds interesting. :P

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That's a pretty good deal, actually. I live in Ratchada too, and I'm paying 20+k for 38sqm and a tiny toilet. :(

Gotta find a new pad soon.

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Haha, sorry for the post-farming 3 posts in a row. Early in the morning and feeling damn bor liao.

Do you mean having a thai gf, as in w/ possibility of future together; or do you mean fuckbuddy w/ gfe?

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Thank you, ChaYen, for your very inspirational reply. To your credit, you weren't playing the devil's advocate; you were playing the angel. :) I appreciate both sides of the argument and your post is a breath of fresh air. Not that I deliberately go looking around for positive things people want to say about my situation, but an alternative viewpoint is always welcome. Thank you.

Truth be told, I'm a total newbie to exploring "extraordinary relationships" such as this. My previous girlfriends (there were 3 serious ones) were all Singaporeans, and I've never had to deal with Thai culture the way I had to because I've never been given the opportunity to be exposed to it - my work brings me to Malaysia, Australia and China but never Bangkok. The first time I was there, I was brought by a friend in a bid to "introduce" me to what Bangkok really had to offer. I've been dragged to Nana, Cowboy, Patpong and the like (even tried my hand in a MP after much persuasion) but never really enjoyed the whole pay-for-pussy experience. Yes, I'm an extremely sensitive man. I enjoy having sex, but only the entire experience that comes along with it (cuddling, talking, little kisses). Call me a faggot - I don't think I care. Paying for sex doesn't appeal to me personally (absolutely no disrespect to forum members who swear by it, though. It's all a question of personal preference), so the whole G-club exposure opened my eyes up to a brand new world. I wasn't looking for pussy - in fact, I wasn't even expecting a good time. The idea of drinking whiskey in a large group while some random girl has a hand up your thigh while playing lame dice games just didn't appeal to me all that much. Until I met her. Since then I've gone back to Bangkok twice just to see her.

I know I'm rushing it, but people under the influence of infactuation (as opposed to being "under the influence of alcohol", geddit..) do silly things. I know she's asking me to cool it. I don't know why I'm in such a hurry. Maybe because I'm already 32 and not getting any younger? I've been disappointed with Singapore women time and again to the point of giving up. I guess this Thai lady offered me a very different perspective.

Reading your post makes me ashamed of myself. I'm trying Western influences on her, a traditional Thai girl, and I might well have scared her out of her wits. I still think about her a lot, but I just can't get over the fact that she works in a G-club. Sometimes I trust her, and sometimes I don't. I'm a royally confused person.

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Nice, balanced view.. albeit with last cheeky liner. Guess, there are others interested as well (get in line!):p:D
Just add this to your experience under your belt. You came, saw and sampled more than the neon lights of bkk. And lived to tell of your escape

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wahahahhaa share with all BKK loving bros here. yes pls do pls do leave name of gal and club wahahahahhaha:D

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juz got back fresh frm BKK lastnite.. hehehe...
juz update on my lil trip there..
wanted to go to renovate aft a last session at posoidon last friday... crossed d street n found out dat it was closed due to renovation... ended up.. no clubbin dat nite... was too late by d time we were done wif our soapy.. ended up back in wattana drinkin beer at their 24hrs cafe.. had bit of supper n looked at d galz comin back wif their customers.. saw 4 couples... comin in... the boyz looked really happy.. they looked kinda young though.. n on their hands were 4 ladies... 2 galz 2 LBs... hmm... i wonder if the boys noe wat their gonna get.. 555... but anywayz.. 1 of d LBs looked way better than any of d 3 others... 555... n she kept smilin at us n even talked to her fren n they in turn looked towards us n smiled n giggled... hmm... anywayz... was late aldy.. n we were all buzzed frm d beer... no chance for any actions dat nite.. 555...
anywayz.. spent saturday n sunday nite at INCH.. blardee love dat joint.. HipHop is great there... was actually plannin to go RCA on sunday.. but frenz frm korat came into bkk n they wanted to check out INCH... so... went there again...
current promotions @ INCH is ...
2 1ltr botts of RED = 2500THB
2 75cl botts of BLACK = 2500THB
2 Botts of SWING = 3500THB
1 Bott Smirnoff wif 3mixers = < 2000THB (if i remem correctly)

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Yeah, it was the good old days and you are now talking to one of BKK Escapade bros.:D
Most of them are now MIA or still cheong quietly and or move to other places.

Soprano, Tango, Piano and Exotica has the same similar concept.

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wow seem the rate at bbk is going way high... can any bro update me what's the rate at nana area now? i'm going there with my friends on the 10 to 13 of april. plan to stay at nana hotel... but after reading on th epost here. seem the rates have gone up alot.. it's been 5 years since my last trip there. so looking for some advice. thank bro.. btw anyone there during that time.. maybe can meet for a drink plus chiong.... thanks...:D

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sorry ... just a short question... saw on the web that nana hotel need to pay 1000 baht to bring girls in.. is it true?.. thanks

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Bro, where is this inch? Ratchada soi 4 ?? down there a lot of kids and thai ah bengs....like mohammad sultan...:D

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What irresponsible friends u have.
This so called G club experience singapore also have what...dont you know there is such a thing call KTV in singapore??
Besides thai women, Singapore also got china girl and vietnam girl....I believe all will give u the KC u want and all kinds of different perspective...no need go all the way to BKK for that lah...

dont be another suteerak, giving stupid excuses that you have failed relationship with singapore girls so go and look for WL, especially thai ones... to give u the kind of GFE u looking for.:rolleyes:

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Next to Baryan Tree, behind Esplanade, on Ratchada.

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yup... rite there.. if i not mistaken.. it was where the former PumpUp used to be.. itz juz a normal disco... wif 1 side LiveBand n d other HipHop... 1 thing i like abt tis place is when d DJs spin, they got coupla guyz singin it out too... shiox...

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She brought up the idea of going to Koh Samui together during my next visit.

Am I being taken for a ride again? Does she see me as a free holiday-maker? After all I'd be expected to pay for EVERYTHING there.

I'm inclined to say no.